15: The best way to solve your hesitations about moving abroad

Are you having hesitations about moving abroad? You’re not alone. I had many hesitations about moving abroad before I actually did it. Because let’s be honest, it’s scary!

But by addressing these hesitations head on, we can be really honest with ourselves about what the deep root of these hesitations are and what we can do to prevent them from coming to fruition. Listen to this week’s episode to get really clear on your hesitations about moving abroad so you can move past your hesitations and towards your goal of actually moving abroad! 

I thought about starting this business for 2 years before I actually started it. You know why? I had hesitations about it that were holding me back. These were hesitations I wouldn’t address head on and logically so I just sat on the idea for a long time reminding myself of my excuses and not taking any action. But I was doing myself a disservice. And the thing that got me over this was doing a free 5 day challenge that Amy Porterfield did. She has a marketing podcast and focuses on building online businesses. She basically said to physically list out all of the hesitations you have about something and then list out what you can do to prevent those things from happening. I got very honest about myself about why these things were holding me back and what I could do about it. Here was my example about building my business: 

Why do I want to start this business: 

I want others to experience moving abroad as I have. It genuinely makes me feel sad to think people do not move abroad just because they’re scared or don’t know how to do it. I wanted a business that would give me total freedom and flexibility. I wanted to build something that is my own and something I can be proud of. I wanted a business where I can work when and where I want, where I can spend as much time with my family as I want.

What are my hesitations and what are the deep fears in these hesitations: 

I’m worried about keeping up with social media

Solution: I do not have to be perfect on social media. I will try my best, and use it as a tool for growth, but if at any time I feel it is taking away from my happiness, I will pull back or work on scheduling ahead of time or hire a social media manager or figure out another solution to find balance for myself. 

I’m worried about not having enough time to spend with others and becoming only work centric

Solution: I will work during very specific hours that I am able to maintain during Monday-Friday. I will not work on weekends. And if I get invited to do something on a workday where I can’t go to bed when I need to to get up at the early time I need to, that’s okay. I will say yes to plans and enjoy time with friends. I will still get no less than 7 and a half hours of sleep. I prioritize enjoying life and if this business needs to grow a bit slower so I can maintain balance in my life then that’s okay with me. 

Why do you want to move abroad?

(Get out your notes app or a piece of paper and literally write these down!)

I want to move abroad because I have a big desire in my heart to do so. I constantly bring it up in conversations, I think about it constantly and if I do not act on this desire at some point I will regret it for the rest of my life. I think it will be fun. I think London is a beautiful city – I love that there are old buildings mixed in with new ones. I think it will be good for my career because there are global companies in London and good marketing jobs – I can grow in my career here. I like that it is an English speaking country so I can make deep connections with other people without the language barrier. London will be a great base for traveling around Europe. 

Moving Abroad Hesitations: 

I’m worried I will regret breaking up with my boyfriend I’m in love with. 

Solution: I know deep down he’s not the best fit for me and moving far away is probably the best way to force myself to move on. And I know that if it’s meant to be, it will happen for us again in the future. 

I’m worried I won’t have full support from my friends and family and that they will be upset with me if I leave. 

Solution: This is my life. I need to make my own decisions about what I think is best for my life. I am capable of making decisions on my own and I do not need permission or validation to know that moving abroad is what I really want and need to do for myself. 

I’m worried about maintaining strong relationships with my friends and family.

Solution: I will fly back home twice a year. I will budget for the money I will need for flights home. I will go home for Christmas every year because these memories with my family are a priority for me. I will plan the second flight per year around any potential big events that are happening that year (weddings, baby births, etc) or if there are no big events that are happening that year, I will go back halfway through the year. I will fly back more often if I feel twice a year is not enough for me. 

I will maintain relationships with family and friends throughout the year with consistent phone calls, sharing photos, texting or however else my family will communicate best with me. I will be flexible on my end to ensure I maintain these relationships. 

I’m worried about making enough money. 

Solution: I will be mindful where I am spending money and where I can save and I will pick up additional work if I need to. I am resourceful and I will find a solution for money if I need to in the future. 

I’m worried I won’t be able to get a good job if/when I move back to the states. 

Solution: My career is not my everything. I care more about living a full life. But if I’m being honest with myself, I actually think this will be a good thing for my career. It will make me stand out as a candidate if I decide to move back to the states. 

I’m worried I won’t actually like it there. And I’m scared of the change. 

Solution: I will never know if I don’t try. And if I don’t try I know I will regret it for the rest of my life. Change is always scary because we’re entering into the unknown. But it’s just scary because it’s the unknown and new things are always scary until they become familiar. I trust myself to find my way and solve any problems that come my way. 

If you are considering a move abroad, download my FREE guide, 5 Exact Steps to Move Abroad. It would be a great start!